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In a culture where almost everything is sold around “sex” whether it is toothpaste, cars, clothes, furniture, houses, or hair dye we have been misusing sexuality.  When studying and practicing The Ten Grave Precepts students of Zen are invited to take a look at their sexuality and decide what it means to them, how they use it, and how its use affects themselves and those around them.

Reb Anderson in his wonderful book Being Upright (2001) has a beautiful chapter entitled “NOTHING IS WISHED FOR: Not Misusing Sexuality.”  He talks about various ideas from sexual greed to sexual imagery, energy, and intimacy.  He describes it in one paragraph as—

. . .dancing in perfect harmony with the rhythms of our sexual passion. Eventually, the time comes when a human being appears before you as a brilliant and shinning god or goddess, acting as a mirror reflecting your wholeness.  This reflection reveals the dazzling promise of orgasmic unity and the bliss of the complete integration of your whole being (page 118).

When I read this passage it brought back to me a time many years ago when I had a lucid dream about my partner and we were both walking through a doorway, he coming from one side and me from the other.  The doorway was too small for us to pass by without touching and yet neither of us wanted to wait for the other so we both proceeded and our ethereal bodies slowly merged into one and from the top of my head to the tips of my toes I felt the energy—you might say it was a super orgasmic lucid dream from which I did not want to awaken.   But now these many years later I realized that is exactly what Reb was talking about in this chapter.  The merging of the “rhythms of our sexual passion” was “reflecting each others wholeness” and not as separate individuals but as one.

This is how we are taught to live in Zen Buddhism—as “One” with everything.  Regardless of where we are or what we are doing when we focus on the person or the object not as “the other” or something “separate” from us then we are practicing the Bodhisattva way.

I was counseled many years ago by a Unity minister friend of mine, Edwene Gaines, not to sleep with anyone whose consciousness I did not want to own.  I did not understand it very well then, but now I do.  She understood that when you had sex with someone you became one with them, as Reb speaks about, and that his or her energy—good or bad—enters you and yours enters them and you share thoughts, emotions, dreams and more.  Ask yourself before the encounter is this someone I would want to merge with.  Are his or her thoughts, energies, and emotions similar to mine?  Is the person filled with peace, love, compassion, and kindness? These are simple but tough questions to ask and to answer.

Remember Reb says it is a “mirror reflecting your wholeness.”  Is this person’s wholeness the wholeness you want to embrace and make your own?

In the end of the chapter he closes by saying he compares it to sitting Zazen which he calls “sitting upright.”

The world of sex is sitting upright, too.  Whenever you do anything with complete warmth and devotion, it is the same.  Creating a work of art, cooking a meal, or cleaning house: any action of body, speech, or mind, when done in this spirit of complete devotion, without imagining anything else, and without the slightest separation between yourself and the task, is the same.  This is immaculate sexuality (page 121).

This is not the sexuality we see on TV in the ads, or in the movies, or soap operas.  This is the sex that was illustrated in this joke that I heard many years ago.  A young married couple is having sex and in the middle of her husband’s organism the woman opens her eyes, looks up and says, “hmmm.  I think we should paint the ceiling pink, don’t you?”

Today and everyday I see you dancing in perfect harmony with the rhythms of your sexual passion as you recognize your oneness with all there is.

Things to focus on this week:

  •  Step one: Begin by deciding how you will refrain from misusing sexuality this week.
  • Step two: Set your intention to do so before each possible encounter.
  • Step three: Remember to be mindful of being upright in all you do and do not misuse sexuality.
  • Step four: Finally, keep a journal on the precept and make note of how learning to embody it in thoughts, words, and actions is affecting your life. Good luck with that!

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As I was listening to a Rod Stewart album (“It Had to Be You, The Great American Songbook”) this morning he mellowed into a beautiful rendition of “For All We Know.”  This verse jumped out at me like a lightning bolt, “We come and go like a ripple on a stream.”  It brought to my mind’s eye the vision of a beautiful stream in the mountains that contains all the debris of a forest from small pebbles and stones to leaves and flowers and moss each floating gracefully along with the pull of the earth drawing them to various and sundry places to lodge who knows where.  It was an analogy of my life for sure.

Sometimes I feel as though the stream is flowing faster than I can manage, and other times it is meandering along at a smooth and subtle pace where my mind may sit and rest like the family I observed one day floating down the Tellico River in TN in huge tire tubes smiling, laughing, and enjoying the lazy trip.

There is an adage that goes something like this, “You can never step into the same river twice.”  Why” Because the river is different every moment with what it catches and carries along with it.  Exactly like my mind.  Each situation brings with it different thoughts, emotions, worries, joys, and jubilations.  Depending upon how much “thought” and “time” I give each one of these things is how my day, week, month, year, and life will go.

Being mindful of the multitude of things that could be drifting along with me down this river of life makes me realize how life is such a great and hidden adventure to be enjoyed and shared and used each and every minute of the day.

As I continued to listen to Rod sing this verse appeared, “Tomorrow was made for some, Tomorrow may never come for all we know.” And what then—does  my river stop flowing?  Or does my river flow elsewhere? Will my river grow, disappear, or simply swallow me up (whoever that me is).  Or does it drop me lovingly into a new world beyond my human mind’s ability to even imagine? Remember he sings, “For all we know—this may only be a dream”

Just like in lucid dreaming we can manipulate the dream as we please.  If we find ourselves falling off of a tall building we can spread our arms and fly upward just before we hit the pavement and slowly and softly land ourselves upright on the pavement or grass.  Ah, the power of those lucid dreams!

If we have the power to master the lucid dream, why do we so often lose the power to master our lives? Or maybe we are not supposed to “master our lives.”  Maybe our lives, as the Zen Buddhists say are “Thus.”  Maybe they just “are.”  Or maybe life just “is.”  These thoughts meander through my mind as I write this blog like the leaves and stones floating down the river, never to be seen again…

And thus today, “We come and go like a ripple on a stream.”  And for others, “tomorrow may never come.”  I wonder which will be mine and what I will do with it when I get there…wherever there is.

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